It’s June 10th, and therefore the beginning of the end of applying each letter of grace to different themes of my life. I have some ideas for post-June grace writings, as grace is my word for 2022, but it still feels like the (almost) end. Is there grace in endings? Endings remind me things are…
Category: Introversion
I’m an INFJ-A, among the rarest personality types! I have learned to navigate my “counselor” type and share tips.
How do I give grace when I’m alone?
For the last 3 months, I’ve written about grace on the 10th, 20th, and 30th, but it feels much longer since my last post. Maybe because tonight’s post is especially vulnerable. But grace requires honest reflection, and so I am giving space to my feelings below. If they help you release or feel heard, all…
Asking for grace via acceptance and agency
It’s April 10th, so that means another grace post! Since it’s a new month, April’s grace themes on the 10th, 20th, and 30th will start with letter A. In honor of being (nearly) halfway through with spelling out g – r – a – c – e, I’m shaking up today’s format, mainly focused on…
Womxn in Progress: Mikayla Ruvalcaba
Every Wednesday in March 2022, I am sharing one #womxninprogress, detailing the work of a creative, inspiring womxn in my life. If you’d like this series to continue after March, click here to learn about these spotlights and/or submit a spotlight. Over the last 4 Wednesdays, I’ve highlighted friends and colleagues, and I’m thrilled to…
Can you be the same person in a different space?
What have I learned about myself during these 4 months in my new home? By physically separating myself from my old life, I have formed a boundary, a space between what I was, who I associated with, and what I worked for. I’ve slooowly stripped myself away from many associations and have befriended solitude, favoring…
A minimalist INFJ’s lessons from a big life change
I’m not much of a procrastinator, but I have learned a lot about myself in the last couple of days, so I apologize for the delay in blogging. No excuses. Instead, here’s some life updates, tossed in with some lessons about myself. I crave time. I measure A LOT. I do things by time: Runs,…
Where does confidence come from?
I’ve had many conversations with friends and associates the last few weeks about the role of self in making things happen, and that’s led to topics like self-esteem, confidence, and energy. And I absolutely believe confidence is key in making good stuff happen… But where does it originate? In elementary school, I didn’t have much…
Let feelings direct flow, fun
“Only talk about what you want,” proclaims almost all of my morning meditations of the last week. It started as a tiny whisper, but it’s grown larger. What. I. Want. When I imagine letting myself do what I want, I have to remember it’s for me, my energy, my space, my time. It’s not about…
Give space for mental energy
I’ve been meditating on energy. I can control the physical energy I give to something, but it’s harder for me to see the mental energy. This is not to say that my brain isn’t working; neurons are firing very well, thank you. I’m constantly going: Waking up early to run, then work, then volunteer at…
Progress > success
How do I define success? In the last few weeks, a handful of friends have moved into HOUSES, gotten engaged, and given birth to children. I am super happy for them, but I know those activities are not for me. “Good for them, not for me.” Part of being an independent person is that I…



